Sunday, October 16, 2022

Am I that easy to forget?

 Am I that easy to forget?

[apologies to Debbie Reynolds]



In the beginning there was a town. It was called Bambalapitiya. In that town was a bus station. It was located on the sea side of Galle Road, opposite St Peters’ College, at the southern end.

We were both 16. 1964 was a great year for young teens sprouting off the earth in Gods little acre. She was blonde, blue eyed and Burgher. What more could a brown skinned Moor boy have asked for, to talk about and show off too, to his mates at school?

To have a girlfriend while still attending secondary school, in the 60’s, was a huge fillip to any young lads ego. And, if she was a beauty like Suzy was, then all hell broke loose. So, it passed, that each morning, Monday to Friday, we would carry our books and be at the bus stand, to meet, engage in a quick chat, and take the 105/106 bus together. Suzy hopped off at Lindsay, at the Bambalapitiiya junction, and poor young me, had to leave the gal of my dreams behind and move on further ahead. The bus took the right turn at Bullers Road and then turned left on to Thurstan Road, all the way past the University towards Royal. Another school day began.

Dad used to give each of us Rs 1/- per day for school expenses. Commuting, by bus, to Royal and back cost me 40 cents. So you think transport is expensive today, huh? Ten string hoppers with coconut (pol) “sambol” and beef curry, for lunch, took a hefty 30 cents at Mr Saranapala’s canteen. An ice cream, from the Alerics tricycle man parked outside the College gate, grabbed another 10 cents. A tiny newspaper cone filled with peanuts, 5 cents. That left me with 15 cents per day saving for five days, totaling a nice 75 cents per week. That’s a good 3 bucks at the end of the month. That was how the middle class lived in that era.

Now, what were boyfriends and girlfriends supposed to be engaging in, in those halcyon times? Sharing comics, magazines, and novels was one successful way of keeping the relationship steady. It also brought forth useful topics for discussion. One can’t always be pointing to the sky, like Englishmen do? Dad subscribed to Life Magazine, The Readers Digest, The Illustrated Weekly of India, Titbits, and a few others. I still remember the full page Titbits crossword puzzle that the whole family used to grapple with at home until the solution was delivered in the next edition. Holding hands at the Piccadily Café  after a 25 cent scoop of vanilla ice cream was awesome. Discussing the latest hits, broadcast on Radio Ceylon, of Elvis, Cliff, Ricky, Gentleman Jim, and later, the Beatles, rocked. Exchanging records, 45’s, EP’s, & LP’s, was a great piece of technology of that era that kept us engaged. A walk along the beach, holding hands, by the rail tracks facing the Kinross club, was always a great way to see the sun go down into the Indian Ocean, in the 60’s. The Wadiya wasn’t even born yet.

Sunday morning at the Savoy offered a special showing at 10 am for young people. Tom used to chase Jerry all over the place and then a musical, usually, followed. All the young folks in town were there. The Savoy was the place to be on a Sunday morning.

How does one ask a gal out to a movie with only 3 bucks in the pocket? That’s when Grandma came to the rescue. She lived with us since I can remember and always had her daily expense monies knotted up at the end of her sari fall. A ten rupee note was always forthcoming whenever the situation demanded. 13 bucks was a lot of money for a 16 year old. Two balcony tickets cost Rs 7.20. That left a chunky Rs 5.80 for ice chocs, drinks, and cashew nuts, and also another scoop of ice cream at Piccadilly Café before saying bye for the day.

O Levels came along. We had to take time off to study and pass. Exams were as important as girlfriends. I passed offering 8 subjects in science. Suzy did well too in Arts. She always wanted to be a writer. Yes, she was a bright little blonde.

It was while we were enjoying another ice cream at the Picadilly Café, this time with fruits and nuts and sugar sprinkling on top at 50 cents a scoop, that she broke the devastating news to me. The changing political climate and the sordid language issues, that were plaguing the island since the late 50’s, had forced Suzy’s dad to take the inevitable decision to leave Ceylon for good. They were planning to sail to the UK to seek their pot of gold. I walked up to the juke box, dropped a 25 cent coin in, and played “Suzy Darling”. What was poor Dick Whittington, in Bambalapitiya, going to do now?

The day finally dawned. Suzy left. Time flew. There was no more communication. Not even on snail mail. News filtered through the grapevine that Suzy had married an ex Thomian cricketer, the wrong school of course, and lived in London. I moved on too. We both had our own families now. I left the country, with my family, in 1979.

Social media was born several decades later. I had no choice but to look for Suzy online, at least just to know what she was up to, how many kids she has, what she was reading, and how she had spent her life. It’s not easy searching, online, for such a common name like hers with not much additional data available. She was never found although she still popped up in my mind.

Our two gals grew up and chose to migrate to Canada and Sweden, respectively. I finally quit my day job in the mid-east and flew to Canada to spend some quality time with the rest of the flock.  The shocking news arrived through a very strange and unusual source. The messenger was a mutual friend, Suzy and I knew in the 60’s, who had migrated to Canada long years back and now lived in Scarborough. Suzy had passed away in London in 2017, after having been diagnosed with cancer a few years before.

It was so sad to find out but it was also some kind of closure for me, in a way. The human mind has this strange facet of leaving no stone unturned until it finds out what it seeks. I’ve been away from Sri Lanka for forty years and only returned home to roost in October 2018.  Piccadilly Café is no more. The Savoy and the Kinross club still stand. Each time I pass by that bus station opposite St Peters’ College, I still think of Suzy, standing in her crispy clean well ironed white school uniform with the purple tie hanging low down from her neck, her blonde locks reflecting the sun, holding her books with both her outstretched hands as she always used to.

“Oh! Suzy darling,

I thought you knew.

You were all the world to me,

All my dreams come true”

Fazli Sameer

Mar 2019